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As a Mentor…

Join us in a unique experience of holding girls in love and ceremony as they transition into young womanhood.  Witness their courage, passion, and explosive beauty as you support them to discover their individual gifts and shine.

Being a Fire & Flower mentor is a blend of 1-on-1 time with your mentee and community time with all mentors, participants and sometimes their families.  The 1-on-1 time can be much like a Big Sisters relationship, hanging out and doing free or low-cost activities (we have suggestions!).  Community time brings everyone together, recognizing that we belong to something greater and there is strength, power and synergy when we gather.  We do ceremony, have group discussions and explore the many faces of womanhood in community.

Why is your role so important?

Coming-of-age is the time in youth when focus and awareness starts to shift from ‘home & family’ to the larger community or world.  It’s a rich period of self-discovery where we naturally start pushing boundaries to expand our sense of self and belonging in the world.  We usually feel, experience and think about A LOT as we’re going through so many changes.

In pre-modern times, as youth moved away from parental dependence and attachment, many cultures had rites of passage where mentors and elders stepped in to guide this self-discovery towards finding personal gifts and developing confidence.  Unlike a parent’s role with its familial context often since birth, a mentor’s role is to enter someone’s life at a particular time, validate who they presently are and catalyze the geniusness that wants to emerge.

Our modern Western culture sorely lacks such support, and many youth are coming-of-age through media and peer influences which may involve unhealthy body image, alcohol, drugs, uninformed sex and sometimes crime.  Your presence as a mentor is therefore invaluable, and as a Fire & Flower mentor, you will accompany a special individual as she says goodbye to girlhood and steps into young womanhood.  This, of course, is a big deal!

How you will be matched with your mentee?

All mentors and mentees will spend Session 1 together on May 12th, 2018.  After some activities to get to know each other, we facilitate a process where the mentees select their top choices of mentors confidentially.  We trust that the girls, consciously and/or intuitively, will know who is best suited for them in this journey and will encourage them to follow this knowing.  We then look at their selections and make final matches that respect mentees’ choices as best we can. 

The Mentor’s Six-Month Commitment – May to October, 2018

1-on-1 Mentoring for 6 months: connecting with your mentee 1.5-hrs a week for the first 4 months (May through Aug). Note that missing a few weeks for vacation/work is fine, but consider a Skype call for such occasions.  For Sept-Oct,  please connecting at least once every 2 weeks.

Community Time with all Mentors & Mentees – The Dates You Need to be Available: (please see Upcoming Program Details & Curriculum sections for the entire program structure and content)

Location: Vancouver, unless specified otherwise

  • Mentor Training Weekend (mentors only): April 28-29, all day
  • Session 1: Sun May 13th, 10am-3pm
  • Session 3: Sun June 10th, 10am-4pm
  • Separation Ceremony (mentee families present): Thurs July 5th, 7-9pm
  • Ceremonial Weekend on Vancouver Island: Fri-Mon July 6th-9th, all day (please let us know if you have scheduling difficulties for this weekend)
  • Welcome Home Feast (mentee families present): Mon July 9th, 6-10pm
  • Incorporation Days, please attend at least one: Sat July 28th & Sat Aug 25th, all day

*Though not required, mentors are welcome to come for sessions 2 & 4 on Sun May 27th and Sat June 23rd respectively.

Mentor Financial Investment: There is a $300 cost for the ceremonial weekend on Vancouver Island (food, accommodation, transportation, programming), plus the mentor training – please let us know if cost is an issue for you.

Criminal Record Check: We require a current CRC (from the last year OK).

Application Process

  1. Please fill out and submit the application form below.
  2. We will review your application and contact you for a phone interview.
  3. Successful applicants will need to have a Criminal Record Check done before Mentor Training Weekend on April 28th.

Please note that if you are the mother of a current participant, you cannot be a mentor as you have a very different and important role in your daughter’s life as she goes through her rite of passage. Please join us next year.

Mentor Application Form